When you hear the words domestic violence, you are immediately drawn to the woman; but do you know that domestic abuse can happen to anyone and it’s not limited to the woman alone. Domestic violence or domestic abuse includes any action or reaction that results in physical, emotional or sexual abuse of one or more members in the relationship.
Domestic violence occurs irrespective of race, age, class, religion, sexual beliefs, educational background, gender, relationship status or socioeconomic background of the victim or victims involved.
Signs of domestic violence
The signs of domestic abuse are not elusive except we decide to ignore it. Some of which are
- Fear of the person or persons in question; it could be the spouse, parent, and a partner.
- Public and private humiliation regardless of who is present.
- Insistent abuse and control of every aspect of the abused life – finances, whereabouts, friends, etc.
- Threatening to hurt the person’s kids, loved ones or pets if they disobey.
- Accusations and physical abuse such as smacking, hitting and sexually being abuse to the victim.
- Downgrading the person or comparing them to someone else.
Getting help for domestic abuse victims
Before getting help, don’t ever confront your abuser if you don’t have the necessary support or people around you to help out you when something gets out of hand.
To seek help:
- Talk to your doctor.
- Report physical abuse and beating to the police with photographs for evidence or have someone report the incident to the law.
- If you are a woman, join or speak to a woman support group.
- Speak to your family and only ensure that people around you are trustworthy and understand your plight.
What not to do to a domestic abuse victim?
- Never blame victim for tolerating and staying with their abuser: blaming and judging the victim makes you an abuser, so be very careful with your words and how you use them.
- Don’t pressure them to leave or abandon their children: enforcing don’t change anything, gradually talk to the abuser to come to a place of mental stability and focus before enforcing any harsh rules or decision.
- Don’t wait for the abused to seek help first as some are afraid to even speak up: speak to the abused first and be a friend to help them seek the needed support.
- Don’t turn a blind eye or a deaf ear to their problems. If they come you help them out.
Every year millions of women and men suffer abuse that leads to death, even though abuse centers are located all over the country, many women still feel the guilt of being in such relationships and think they can fix it on their own.
Before it gets out of hand, get help today.