When you hear the words domestic violence, you are
immediately drawn to the woman; but do you know that
can happen to anyone and it’s not limited to the
woman alone. Domestic violence or domestic abuse
includes any action or reaction that results in
physical, emotional or sexual abuse of one or more
members in the relationship.
Domestic violence occurs irrespective of race, age,
class, religion, sexual beliefs, educational
background, gender, relationship status or
socioeconomic background of the victim or victims
Signs of domestic violence
The signs of domestic abuse are not elusive except we
decide to ignore it. Some of which are
- Fear of the person or persons in question;
it could be the spouse, parent, and a
- Public and private humiliation regardless of
who is present.
- Insistent abuse and control of every aspect
of the abused life – finances, whereabouts,
- Threatening to hurt the person’s kids, loved
ones or pets if they disobey.
- Accusations and physical abuse such as
smacking, hitting and sexually being abuse
to the victim.
- Downgrading the person or comparing them to
Getting help for domestic abuse victims
Before getting help, don’t ever confront your abuser
if you don’t have the necessary support or people
around you to help out you when something gets out
To seek help:
- Talk to your doctor.
- Report physical abuse and beating to the
police with photographs for evidence or have
someone report the incident to the law.
- If you are a woman, join or speak to a woman
- Speak to your family and only ensure that
people around you are trustworthy and
understand your plight.
What not to do to a domestic abuse victim?
- Never blame victim for tolerating and
staying with their abuser: blaming and
judging the victim makes you an abuser, so
be very careful with your words and how you
- Don’t pressure them to leave or abandon
their children: enforcing don’t change
anything, gradually talk to the abuser to
come to a place of mental stability and
focus before enforcing any harsh rules or
- Don’t wait for the abused to seek help first
as some are afraid to even speak up: speak
to the abused first and be a friend to help
them seek the needed support.
- Don’t turn a blind eye or a deaf ear to
their problems. If they come you help them
Every year millions of women and men suffer abuse
that leads to death, even though abuse centers are
located all over the country, many women still feel
the guilt of being in such relationships and think
they can fix it on their own.
Before it gets out of hand, get help today.